Girlfriends are amazing and should be appreciated.
Girlfriends are there during the good, the bad and the ugly haircuts. Always reinforcing everything you need to hear exactly when you need to hear it.
About 10 years ago, I had been dating my now husband for a little while. I had been introduced to quite a bit of his friends, which were all incredible. We went to one of his friend’s weddings where I met another one of his friend’s sisters. This girl is one of God’s most beautiful creations. Goddess-like. The creator of Twilight must have met her and created the stunning vampires after her because she is gorgeous!
After that wedding I found out that my boyfriend had a crush on her growing up. She’s 2 or 3 years younger than him and never made a move but he crushed on her. How could he not? She the most beautiful person I’ve ever seen in real life. Upon hearing this news, I did what any girl in my shoes would do, called my girlfriend. I told her about the amazing wedding and then the Goddess.
“She has thick blonde hair down to her butt, perfectly straight blinding white teeth, the bluest eyes you’ve ever seen, flawless skin, she’s tiny but not in a doesn’t-eat-anything but more in a she works out fit and trim way. She’s smart, she was the valedictorian of her Notre Dame graduating class and she’s really nice on top of all that.”
My girlfriend said what any girlfriend would say in this situation, “that BITCH”!
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The thing about life is it changes and makes you change with it. Unfortunately that girlfriend I mentioned above and I are no longer friends. We just had different ideas of what friendship was and in the end parted ways. I have indifferent feelings about this. She changed immensely since our friendship started, always questioning where she belonged and in the process of finding her she changed everything I loved about her. During our friendship when I needed her she was there and it was mutual.
This isn’t about her. It’s about girlfriends in general. Over the years friends have come and go. My friends have changed 100% and that is ok! Now I have this great set group of people that understand me with support and no judgment, really what more could a girl ask for?
Recently my husband and I have been working out some kinks. All relationships require work and since we’ve added kids to the mix they have taken priority over our marriage and we just plain forgot to work on us. We haven’t been going out on dates or reconnecting at all, this has caused some pretty intense glitches. We’re both hoping the setbacks we’re facing were caught early enough in the beginning stages and we can heal and move forward together. To do this effectively we started seeing a marriage consoler.
Maybe when the scars have healed I’ll talk in greater detail about the consoling sessions. Right now, it’s too fresh. Yesterday my husband had a pretty rough day at work and the consoling sessions have been anything but easy. He asked me if he could cancel it for the night. Sometimes the sessions are R.O.U.G.H. I too, didn’t want to have a rough one since I have a half marathon on Saturday to focus on.
I told one of my girlfriends that we wouldn’t be bringing out boys over since the hubby was canceling the appointment and she did a classic girlfriend move. She responded with, “Is this a good thing or are we irritated?”
That simple response made my freaking day! Are WE irritated, the best kind of girlfriends are constantly on your side; without question just there every damn day.
I have so many more examples! The best girl friends are the ones that don’t question or judge your motives they just have your back. The ones you don’t have to talk to every single day but you can catch up with over one cup of coffee. The ones that drop everything in a seconds notice when you absolutely need them too. I am lucky to have one but blessed with five.
I cherish every single one of these ladies. Take some time today and celebrate your girlfriends. They deserve it! If you don’t have any girlfriends, it’s never too late to find some. Some of my best relationships have come in my late twenties!
Jes xo
P.S. I saw this image on the internet somewhere, not sure where it came from but it’s pretty great!